Focus on the Family

You protect your relationship from being destroyed or damaged. I offer it only as a thought exercise because I think MOST married.


What Comes First Kids Or Spouse The Life Expert

Putting your marriage on cruise control for 20 years while you focus on your kids is like falling asleep at the wheel deadly.

Putting your spouse first. The question of who should come first is further complicated. I say that without judgment. These secure feelings help to build trust between you and your marriage will be stronger and happier.

Its affirming the supremacy of the marriage over the individual. In marriage either your spouse is number one or youre doing it wrong. What are the Benefits to Putting Your Spouse First.

A rule that Debra and her husband John established early in their marriage is to take Ephesians 426 literally Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry Over the years God has used the sanctifying work of marriage to mold change and transform them. That way both get their needs met in the relationship. But many psychologists and relationship experts push back on that idea arguing that your spouse should come before your children.

You tend to your connection so it feels good to you both. Im divorced largely because I prioritized all kinds of bullshit ahead of my wife and our relationship. Putting your partner first means his or her needs feelings and wellbeing take priority over other people or things.

Put your spouse first. Both parties need to be 100 committed to the marriageyou put your spouse first and they put you first. If you treat your husband like a king he will treat you like a queen.

Church membership and regular church attendance will be one way a family shows that God is first in their lives see Hebrews 1025. Allowing the needs of another to take precedence doesnt make you a wimp. Prioritizing anyone or anything over your wife or husband is the most surefire way I know to destroy your family.

A sense of we forms as you maintain this priority on purpose each day. All of ones heart soul and strength is to be committed to loving God making Him the first priority. When the spouses are prioritizing their marriage each of them feels safe and as if they completely belong.

Your kids will live with you for just two short decades. Take Mini Marriage Time Outs. The theory is that without a strong marriage and loving home kids wont thrive so youre doing them a disservice by putting your spouse on the back burner which can lead to marital trouble and even divorce.

11 Ways To Put Your Spouse First Support the Other Persons Decisions. If you want your marriage to last your lifetime give it the attention and effort it deserves. Disagreeing about things that affect the entire family in front of the children is.

Make moments throughout the day where you send your spouse the message that he or she is. And when you feel this way in your marriage the chances you will divorce go down. If you are married your spouse comes next.

2 If you put your spouse first it works and you remain happy. Putting Your Spouse First.